Your Environment Matters: Setting the Stage for Drug Detox Success this Mental Health Awareness Week by Maya

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When you’re struggilng with substance abuse and considering detox, chances are you have a clouded view of what this looks like. Images of withdrawal symptoms, sterile hospital beds, and indifferent staff often cause people to fear going into a rehab center. But drug detox doesn’t have to be this way.

Facilities across the USA (and in the UK) like Utah drug detox centers, can provide a safe, supportive, and structured environment to help you navigate this challenging phase. These centres offer the resources and expertise necessary to manage detox. They can help set you up for long-term success.

What are the key aspects of a positive detox environment, and how do they contribute to a successful recovery journey? We’ll discuss those answers here.

Building a Foundation

Research shows that up to 90% of people who relapse after drug detox do so within the first year. Don’t let this number discourage you, though! It can feel daunting, but it also highlights the importance of setting yourself up for success from the very beginning.

Creating a positive environment during detox will improve your chances of long-term recovery. You need a calming, supportive space. Whether you choose your own home, a friend or family member’s place, or a detox program, make sure it’s comfortable and includes healthy, appealing meals that nourish your body. As you heal and cope with withdrawal symptoms, you’ll need proper nutrition.

Surround yourself with a supportive network of people as well. Those who understand your journey and believe in your recovery will be a crucial source of strength.

Address Detox Concerns

Detoxification is often seen as a difficult, uncomfortable experience, and with good reason. Many people entering detox worry about withdrawal symptoms. These effects can range from anxiety and fatigue to nausea, pain, and muscle aches.

But withdrawal symptoms aren’t the only concern. People might also worry about privacy, safety, and the cost of detox. Quality detox programs focus on patient privacy and confidentiality with trained medical professionals to provide a safe, supportive environment.

These types of detox programs can come with a hefty price tag, but many facilities have flexible payment options or work with insurance. Treatment is still within reach for those struggling financially.

Environment

Imagine stepping into a detox program, not with a sense of dread, but with a feeling of comfort. Instead of glaring lights and cold metal, you’re greeted by a warm, home-like environment. Attentive and professional staff are there to support you, easing the anxieties often associated with detox. This welcoming atmosphere can foster a crucial element of recovery: trust.

Trust in your caregivers is essential. When a detox program feels clinical and impersonal, it can create a sense of detachment. You might feel like just another patient to be processed. But a comfortable and inviting space can make a big difference.

This environment allows you to feel safe, valued, and more receptive to the personalised care and guidance offered by your treatment team. The sense of trust empowers you to fully engage in the detox and recovery process, setting you up for a stronger foundation on your journey to a healthier life.

Take the First Step

Detox is a crucial first step on the path to recovery. By prioritizing a safe, supportive, and comfortable environment, you can significantly increase your chances of long-term success.

Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. Reach out to a qualified professional or treatment center today to begin your journey to a healthier and happier life. Many resources are available to support you, and there is no shame in seeking help. Take that first step today — your future self will thank you for it.

We’re a Top 10 UK Mental Health Blog by Vuelio for Mental Health Awareness Week 2024!

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I am absolutely delighted to share that Vuelio has listed Be Ur Own Light as a Top 10 UK Mental health blog! For the 6th year running! I am so grateful as we work hard year-round on the blog. Thank you to all our amazing collaborators too. These lists recognise influential blogs in their sectors.

You can see Vuelio’s Top 10 Mental health blog list here this Mental health awareness week: https://www.vuelio.com/uk/social-media-index/mental-health-blogs-uk-top-10/

We are number 7! (last year number 5, but getting on this list is a huge achievement and for 6 years in a row… can’t believe it.)

Thanks Christina and all at Vuelio!

Looking forward to sharing more mental health blogs and battling stigma daily.

Eleanor x

Returning To Work After A Long Time Away And Work Mental Health

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While we might think that everyone is a buttoned-down professional, everyone has their own relationship to their work. But what about returning to work after a long time away? Maybe you’ve been on maternity leave, have suffered an illness, been struggling with mental health, or have been off work for a variety of reasons.

However, it’s true that settling back into the regular working cycle is often a form of mental health and self-care in itself. This is because work is hard, as is balancing a job around personal priorities. As such, it’s important to get out there, to make the right preparations and to believe you can do it. The secret is that you really can, even if you had to fight against your previous employer thanks to their lack of labor law compliance tracking.

With that in mind, let’s discuss how to brace yourself for a return to work, even after a long time away.

Plan Ahead For Your Transition

Your employer likely knows that you have a period of unemployment in the past, and may have asked you about it. If you were candid about it and still gained the job, your employer will likely understand. For the first couple of weeks, you might ask to do staggered days or part-time shifts, then slowly move into full-time. It can’t hurt to ask.

Alternatively, you might integrate a full month of regular 9-5 work to onboard, and then consider remote working from that point on. Planning ahead for your transition, making these requests, or asking for any appropriate support measures can be key. For example, perhaps you need to visit your physiotherapist once a week for mobility assistance. Laying this all out on the table is healthy, because you have nothing to be ashamed of, and reasonable provisions must be made for you (as they legally ought to be for anyone who experiences a personal condition or disability).

Refresh Your Skills & Knowledge

Even the most capable professional can feel rusty in their skills after a period away, as work isn’t like riding a bicycle, it takes a little adjustment period to feel your best. As such, you might ask to review certain work materials before you start, such as the company structure, role boundaries and parameters, and specific preparations to make.

In some cases, you may have the tools to play around with before you start. If you’re working in the content production section of a marketing department, you might focus on Premiere Pro revision or editing software understanding once more, checking out the new updates to see what has changed. This way, you arrive at the new place a little sharper and more practiced.

Get Into The Daily Schedule Beforehand

You may have a couple of weeks before you start work again, which is a great practice period for getting used to your new schedule. You might begin waking up early in the morning and going to bed early, to help your body clock adjust to the new normal. You could even take the commute a few times to make sure you relax into it, and don’t have to worry about being late for your first day. If taking the train during rush hour or figuring out the best route to drive, that can give you great peace of mind.

Moreover, you might prepare your lunch the night before just to get into the habit, or purchase your train tickets set to be valid by a certain date. Getting into the swing of things allows you to avoid feeling tired out or a little shocked when you settle back into work. You don’t want to wake up for your first day tired, irritable, and hungry, but energised and ready to get started. If you have work anxiety, its OK speak to a trusted friend, family member or therapist and seek support.

Don’t Try & Reinvent The Wheel

Most people like to give a good impression as they turn up to a new job for the first time, but that doesn’t mean you have to become the employee of the year in the first week. Just take it easy, and follow the onboarding plan. That’s all you have to do to begin with. Sure, you might be involved in new meetings, but you don’t have to lay out a large vision or plan just yet. Sure, you might be an integral part of the team, but you don’t need to take everyone’s work on immediately. 

It takes time to adapt to a new workplace, and any manager worth their salt understands that. This is also a period to ask as many questions as possible, even if they seem silly on the surface. After all, if you don’t ask now, when will you? Moreover, if you’re a little rusty, don’t be afraid to admit that and slowly sharpen your skills. You don’t have to put every insecurity out there of course, but don’t feel like you have to be perfect, because that’s the quickest way to make a mistake.

Manage Stress & Anxiety Responsibly

It’s natural for people to feel a little stressed at work, and if you have anxious feelings, a new job is fertile ground for them to surface. But you can manage your anxiety with care. You might use supplements to help you (consult a doctor first), and this could include valerian root which is know to deal with mild stress, or ashwagandha, a herbal blend known to relax. Use what works for you and is approved by your doctor, and if advised against taking it or if they clash with any medications you take, make sure to stay well clear. Seeing a therapist can also be helpful.

Moreover, breathing exercises, good sleep schedules and hygiene, and the willingness to take each day at a time can help you feel more relaxed in no time. The first few weeks can be worrying, but sooner rather than later you may begin to feel at home.

With this advice, you’ll be certain to brace yourself even after a long absence preceding your return to work. 

This article was written by a freelance writer.

Mental Health Care In Schools Resources- with Twinkl

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I am delighted to be collaborating with Twinkl on their mental health resources for children in schools.

Twinkl say , ‘We must recognise the need to improve understanding of children’s mental health. A person’s mental health is determined by a complex cocktail of different factors interacting. Some of these factors come from a person’s biology, while others come from external factors. Further complicating things, young children don’t always have a full understanding of why they feel they way they do. They can also be reluctant to talk about it, which only adds to the challenge if you’re a teacher trying to support good mental health care at your school. Ultimately, though, if you have concerns that one of your students is struggling with something related to mental health, you should report your concerns to the appropriate authority.’

Twinkl creates resources for teachers and their students, to provide excellent mental health education. This includes resources such as a morning physical and mental health check in, mental health discussion cards, mindfulness colouring pages, and the emotions iceberg to help children understand their feelings.

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Sometimes children come to school unable to express their emotions or what is going on at home. That’s why its so important for teachers to use these tools to help children at school.

Click here to look at the amazing resources and read this blog by Twinkl.

This is an unpaid collaboration with Twinkl.

What 6 Phases Does the Borderline Personality Disorder Relationship Cycle Consist Of? by Maya

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Those who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) often have trouble maintaining relationships. Though not every relationship will go through these stages and the process isn’t always linear, there are six distinct phases they can go through (although each person is different). Those phases can include the following.

Idealisation

The first phase, often the start of the relationship, is the idealisation phase. Someone with BPD will shower their partner with affection, so the relationship starts out passionately. They may develop feelings fast, and they may mistake the initial feelings of passion as finding the person they’re going to be with forever. Those getting help for their mental health at a Borderline personality treatment center will learn how to recognise this phase in their relationships.

Fear of Abandonment

Once the relationship is underway, the person with BPD will end up watching everything their partner does carefully. The fear of abandonment is strong, so they end up worrying that there are signs that they will be left behind. If their partner doesn’t answer a text message fast enough, the person with BPD might feel like their partner is thinking of leaving them. This can put strain on the relationship.

Reassurance

At this point, the person with BPD will attempt to get reassurance that the partner isn’t going to leave. They might start arguments in an attempt to get the partner to prove they are willing to fight to stay in the relationship. This is often where relationships turn toxic, as the behaviour leads to more arguments and fights in an effort to get the partner to prove they’re serious about the relationship.

Distress

Because of the toxicity in the relationship, it will start to fall apart. The person with BPD will see this coming and start to feel like there’s no way to save the relationship. They’re may feel like they are empty, but they do not have a way to communicate this with their partner. The lack of communication skills can spell disaster for the relationship.

Abandonment

The person with BPD is likely to be the first one to break up the relationship. At this point, it’s difficult if not impossible for the relationship to recover, even if the person with BPD realises what they’ve done. This ultimately creates the feeling of being abandoned, so they are likely going to feel like their fear is real and will be more likely to repeat these phases in the future.

Grief

The final stage is grief. They may end up blaming themselves for the relationship ending and can engage in self-harm or other destructive behaviours as a result. Some will turn to substance abuse or risky behaviours as they grieve the end of the relationship. Depending on the severity of BPD, the intensity of the relationship, and other factors, it may not take long to get from the idealisation stage to the grief stage, which can make going through this stage worse.

BPD disorder doesn’t mean that a relationship is impossible and not all relationships with them will go through these phases. However, this is a common way that relationships play out when one of the people suffers from BPD. Therapy and relationship counselling can help both people to recover and repair from any toxic relationship patterns.

This article was written by Maya.

Unleash Your Potential: Unconventional Hacks for Personal Growth by Miranda Spears

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Personal development frequently demands unique techniques to maximise potential. This article will explore unorthodox personal development hacks that can spark creativity, fresh views, and goal-setting. Each hack for self-discovery and development is different, from embracing pain and novelty to using technology and extreme honesty. By using these unique methods, you’ll discover hidden strengths, tear down boundaries, and open up new opportunities for personal development and enjoyment.

1. Embracing Discomfort

Contrary to popular belief, embracing discomfort can be a powerful catalyst for personal growth, as it challenges you to confront your fears, expand your comfort zone, and discover your true capabilities. Instead of avoiding discomfort, lean into it by intentionally seeking out challenging situations or activities that push your limits, as long as it feels healthy for you to do so. Whether it’s trying a new hobby, speaking in public, or initiating difficult conversations, each experience of discomfort offers an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Embrace the discomfort as a sign that you’re stepping outside your comfort zone and making progress toward your goals, knowing that resilience and growth wait on the other side.

2. Enroll in Growth Programs

For individuals seeking to unlock their full potential, enrolling in growth programs can be a transformative step. Consider embarking on a self-mastery program tailored to your unique aspirations and challenges. These programs are expertly crafted to provide comprehensive guidance and support on your journey of personal development.

Through a mastery program, participants gain access to valuable tools, insights, and strategies designed to foster growth and resilience. By immersing yourself in a growth-oriented environment, you open doors to new perspectives, opportunities, and personal breakthroughs. Embracing the opportunity to enroll in a mastery program empowers individuals to navigate life’s complexities with clarity, purpose, and confidence.

3. Leveraging Technology

Technology can be a valuable tool for personal growth when used intentionally and mindfully. Explore digital resources such as apps, podcasts, and online courses that offer insights, techniques, and exercises for self-improvement and development. From meditation apps and habit-tracking tools to virtual communities and online learning platforms, there’s a wealth of technology-driven resources available to support your growth journey. Harness the power of technology to access information, connect with like-minded individuals, and track your progress toward your goals, leveraging its potential to enhance your well-being and accelerate your growth.

4. Practicing Radical Honesty

Being entirely open and genuine in your communication, whether it is with yourself or with other people, is an essential component of radical honesty. This is true even when the communication is met with resistance or discomfort. Embrace radical honesty as a method of enhancing your self-awareness, bolstering your relationships, and living in a manner that is congruent with your core beliefs. Identifying areas in which you can be holding back or avoiding tough realities can be accomplished via the practice of self-reflection and introspection.

Once you have identified these areas, commit to stating and living your truth with integrity and bravery. Despite the fact that radical honesty requires a degree of vulnerability and bravery, it leads to the development of more profound relationships, promotes personal growth, and cultivates a stronger feeling of authenticity and contentment in all aspects of life. It is important however to not hurt peoples feelings but still remain true to yourself.

5. Embracing Failure and Iteration

Failure is an unavoidable component of the process of human development. Still, rather than seeing it as something to be feared, it should be embraced as a great learning opportunity and a springboard for development. It is important to have a mentality that encourages experimentation and iteration, considering errors and setbacks as feedback that can help you move ahead and shape your subsequent actions. Accept the process of learning via trial and error, keeping in mind that each setback gets you one step closer to achieving your goals. In recognition of the fact that resiliency and flexibility are essential components for personal development and achievement, you should celebrate your willingness to take chances and learn from your failures via celebration.

In conclusion, unconventional hacks and tactics can boost personal development and self-discovery. Each hack unlocks your inner potential and improves your life, from accepting pain and joining development programs to using technology and being radically honest. Stepping beyond your comfort zone, seeing failure as a learning opportunity, and being completely honest and real can help you reach your full potential and thrive. Celebrate the unexpected, the adventure, and new opportunities on the way to personal excellence.

Celebrating Small Victories: The Importance of Milestones In Outpatient Rehab by Rianne Hunter

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In the journey of outpatient rehab, recognising and celebrating each small victory plays a pivotal role in both motivation and recovery. These milestones, no matter how small they may seem, serve as important markers of progress, offering encouragement and a sense of achievement to those on the path to recovery. Each step forward, regardless of its size, can significantly impact the overall success of rehabilitation. This philosophy not only fosters a positive environment but also strengthens the resolve of individuals to continue striving for their ultimate goal of full recovery.

The Power of Acknowledgment

Acknowledging and celebrating small victories may seem insignificant in the grand scheme of things, but it can have a powerful impact on one’s outlook and determination. In outpatient rehab, where the recovery journey can be long and challenging, even the smallest progress should be praised and recognized. This acknowledgment serves as a reminder that each step taken is a valuable and meaningful effort towards healing. It also helps individuals to focus on the present moment, rather than dwelling on past struggles or future worries.

Boosting Motivation

In outpatient rehab, motivation is a key factor in achieving successful outcomes. By celebrating small victories, individuals can maintain their motivation and drive throughout the rehabilitation process. Each accomplishment reinforces their determination and propels them forward towards their ultimate goal. When individuals feel recognized and supported, they are more likely to remain committed to the rehabilitation process and push through any difficult moments.

Building Confidence

As individuals progress through their outpatient rehab program, each milestone reached builds confidence in their abilities and strength. These small victories serve as evidence that they are capable of overcoming challenges and making positive changes in their lives. With each success, individuals are encouraged to set higher goals and push themselves further. This confidence boost can have a lasting impact on their recovery journey and beyond.

Celebrating Together

The power of celebrating small victories is not just limited to the individual in outpatient rehab but also extends to their support system. Family members, friends, and healthcare professionals all play an essential role in providing encouragement and recognition for achievements. By coming together to celebrate each milestone, a sense of community and support is fostered, creating a positive and uplifting environment for the individual in rehab.

Celebrating small victories may seem like a simple act, but its impact on outpatient rehab cannot be underestimated. Each milestone reached serves as a stepping stone towards full recovery and should be recognised and celebrated. By acknowledging these small victories, we can create a more positive and empowering experience for individuals in rehabilitation and help them to achieve their goals with confidence and motivation.

Rianne Hunter is a wife, mother of three, and an independent blogger who writes for a broad range of topics and publishers.

Alcohol Abuse: How Does It Affect Women on an Emotional Level? by Maya

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Alcohol addiction can affect every area of a person’s emotional health. They may start to feel a sense of shame with their friends and loved ones. It can also affect interpersonal relationships, as alcohol can instigate arguments with loved ones. Here are some important ways that alcohol addiction can affect your emotional health.

How Brain Affects The Brain

If you attend a women’s recovery center, you’ll learn the many ways that alcohol affects the brain. Firstly, alcohol travels to the brain through the bloodstream, where it affects the neurotransmitters (the parts of the brain responsible for sending chemical messages between brain cells). Over time and when alcohol abuse occurs, the balance of these neurotransmitters is affected, which can lead to emotional instability. It can also increase the level of dopamine, causing people to become addicted to these heightened feelings of euphoria. Sometimes, alcohol also numbs emotions as well as heightening them.

How Alcohol Affects Mental Health

When alcohol abuse occurs over a long period of time, then mental health is greatly affected especially if someone has a pre-existing condition. Symptoms can range from mild to severe, including:

● Depression

● Mania

● Psychosis

● Anxiety

If these symptoms become severe, then treatment from a mental health professional might be required.

As women are also more prone to depression than men, alcohol can exacerbate the symptoms of depression they might already be experiencing.

Factors That Determine How Alcohol Affects The Brain

Drinking alcohol to excess will negatively impact your mental health. However, other factors include your overall physical and mental health, the amount of alcohol you regularly drink, how often you consume alcohol, how long you’ve been drinking alcohol, the age you started drinking, and certain background factors like if there is a family history of alcohol abuse present.

The Emotional Impact Alcohol Has On The Body

Since alcohol can damage the emotional centers of the brain, it can lead to severe mood swings and erratic behaviour. It has other effects on the brain as well:

● Anger: women who struggle with alcohol abuse tend to struggle more with anger over time. It can be directed at anyone and anything, leading to the destruction of relationships with loved ones.

● Stress: alcohol abuse tends to be the result of relieving stress; this is compounded by the instead of stress during withdrawal symptoms.

● Anxiety: alcohol can be used to ease anxiety, but this only worsens anxiety over the long run. Women who abuse alcohol tend to have more panic attacks and experience generalized anxiety disorder.

● Depression: women who drink heavily tend to be more depressed than others and the risk of suicide increases.

● PTSD: women who have experienced trauma and use alcohol as a coping mechanism are at risk for developing full symptoms of PTSD. Alcohol can make traumatic memories worse and more intense, increasing their feelings of anxiety and fear.

It can be difficult to overcome these negative emotions on your own, but the good news is that you don’t have to. If you fear that you are addicted to alcohol and that it is making your emotional health worse, speak to a mental health professional as soon as possible.

This article was written by Maya.

How Long Does It Take To Recruit a New Employee in 2024?

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Unlock the secrets of modern recruitment: Discover tips for hiring new talent in 2024 and stay ahead in the competitive market.

In the dynamic landscape of recruitment, timing is crucial, employers constantly strive to minimise the time it takes to fill vacant positions while ensuring they find the best talent for their teams, and with the evolution of recruitment strategies and the integration of technology, the recruitment process has undergone significant changes in 2024. Similarly, it is really important to boost wellbeing at work and have strategies in place to support employees when you recruit and HR can assist with this.

Let’s explore how long it takes to recruit a new employee in the current landscape.

Streamlining the Recruitment Process

Traditional recruitment methods often involved time-consuming processes, including manual resume (CV) screening, multiple rounds of interviews, and lengthy decision-making cycles. However, in 2024, organisations are leveraging advanced technologies such as Applicant Tracking Systems (ATS), Artificial Intelligence (AI), and automation tools to streamline the recruitment process.

These technologies enable recruiters to sift through large volumes of resumes efficiently, identify top candidates, and schedule interviews with ease, significantly reducing the time it takes to fill vacancies.

It’s also worth checking out places that offer temporary workers, for example, those in the medical or mental health field will be able to take advantage of services like physician recruiter companies who can give you talented and passionate staff on a short term basis.

Enhanced Candidate Sourcing

In today’s competitive job market, attracting the right people requires innovative candidate sourcing strategies; Employers are leveraging social media platforms, professional networking sites, and job boards to reach a wider pool of candidates and in doing so you can uncover some hidden gem candidates. You also want to make sure that you support your candidates, especially when you come to hire.

Additionally, employee referral programs and talent acquisition partnerships with educational institutions and industry organisations have become popular avenues for sourcing qualified candidates. By proactively engaging with passive candidates and building talent pipelines, organisations can expedite the recruitment process and reduce time-to-hire.

Virtual Recruitment and Remote Onboarding

The widespread adoption of remote work has transformed the recruitment landscape, paving the way for virtual recruitment processes and remote onboarding practices- in fact, in 2022, it is estimated that around 27% of the US workforce was working remotely and this is an upward trend that has been seen in the UK too.

Video interviews, virtual career fairs, and online assessments have become integral components of the modern recruitment process, allowing employers to conduct interviews and assess candidates from anywhere in the world. This can also be helpful to people with disabilities and mental health issues, to be able to interview from within their own home.

Agile Recruitment Strategies

In response to rapidly changing market dynamics and evolving needs, organisations are adopting agile recruitment strategies to adapt quickly to shifting priorities and talent requirements. Agile recruitment involves breaking down the recruitment process into smaller, manageable tasks, enabling recruiters to respond promptly to hiring demands and make data-driven decisions. By adopting an agile approach, organisations can reduce recruitment cycle times, improve candidate experiences, and maintain a competitive edge when recruiting new talent.

2024 is the Best Time to be Recruiting!

In 2024, the recruitment landscape continues to evolve, driven by technological advancements, changing workforce dynamics, and the need for agility and efficiency.

While the time it takes to recruit a new employee may vary depending on factors such as industry, role complexity, and candidate availability, organisations are using innovative recruitment strategies and technologies to speed up the process and secure top talent in a competitive market filled with approximately 12 million Americans every month and millions in the UK.

It is also important to support the mental health and wellbeing of new employees through the recruitment stage to onboarding and beyond, to ensure they feel settled and can thrive in your business. HR can assist with this, as well as developing wellness plans when employees begin

By embracing virtual recruitment, agile methodologies, and metrics-driven approaches, organisations can reduce time-to-hire, improve candidate experiences, and achieve better recruitment outcomes in the dynamic and fast-paced world of talent acquisition (whilst embracing employee wellbeing).

This article was written by a freelance writer

Book Review: Emily Katy – ‘Girl Unmasked: How Uncovering Autism Saved My Life’.

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Trigger warning: discussion of self harm/suicide attempts.

I was so excited when I saw my online friend Emily Katy’s brand new book coming out! Emily was one of the first reviewers of my book Bring Me to Light and had taken photos of her reading it with her dog and some horses :). I followed her on social media and saw that she was writing her own memoir on what it was like to live as a teenager with undiagnosed autism and mental ill health. This review is not gifted or sponsored- I just wanted to read Emily’s story.

I want to congratulate Emily and her team as this week it has become a Sunday Times Bestseller which is an incredible feat for any author, especially for their first book!

Emily says,

“Far too many autistic people – women and girls especially – fly under the radar, unseen and unsupported. Many of us reach crisis point and only then (if we are lucky) do we find out that we are autistic. I hope this book can add to the collection of autistic voices demanding change in how autism is understood and recognised”.

I bought this book because I wanted to understand what it was like to live as someone with autism undiagnosed and how that affected Emily’s overall mental health, leading her to be sectioned on a psychiatric unit as her health deteriorated. Although autism is not a mental illness and many see the positives living with a neurodiverse brain, it does impact on mental health, especially when it is undiagnosed by a system not set up to understand it in women.

To the outside world, Emily , who is from the UK like me, looks like a typical girl, with a normal family, living an ordinary life. But inside, Emily does not feel typical, and the older she gets, the more she realises that she is different. As she finally discovers when she is 16, Emily is autistic.

Girl Unmasked is the extraordinary story of how she got there – and how she very nearly didn’t. Still only 21, Emily, writes with startling candour about the years leading up to her diagnosis. How books and imagination became her refuge as she sought to escape the increasing anxiety and unbearable stresses of school life; how her OCD almost destroyed her; how a system which did not understand autism let her down; and how she came so close to the edge that she and her family thought she would never survive. We see how family and friends became her lifeline and how, post-diagnosis, Emily came to understand her authentic self and begin to turn her life around, eventually becoming a mental health nurse with a desire to help others where she herself had once been failed.

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Emily bravely navigates how being undiagnosed with her autism led to her struggling with OCD, anxiety, self harm and depression -which led to suicide attempts. Thankfully, once Emily was able to get a proper diagnosis of all her symptoms that felt right for her (autism and OCD), she found herself able to recover from her depression. In the book, Emily also discusses ways to help you if you are self harming or feeling suicidal. She talks about how being on a psychiatric unit was extremely distressing and as someone with autism, she found that things like loud noises, unpredictability, lack of normal routine or a schedule and new people coming, were just some of the things she struggled with. While at the unit, Emily was also misdiagnosed as having a personality disorder, as well as an anxiety disorder.

It is clear from reading this important book, that Emily feels one of the reasons she was misdiagnosed was because she was a girl. Autistic females tend to fly under the radar for longer due to assessment methods being developed for males, masking to try to fit in with others socially and their special interests being more socially accepted. As someone with bipolar, I have often been called ’emotional’ or ‘drama queen’ and Emily mentions these labels were given to her and other women with autism too. I found reading the lists of autism myths and facts really helpful to further my understanding.

What stands out to me in Girl Unmasked is Emily Katy’s courage. Not just in telling her own story of the perils of living with undiagnosed autism and how it impacted her mental health, but the fact that after surviving multiple self harm and suicide attempts and being sectioned on a psychiatric unit, she has now become a mental health nurse at just 21 (and now bestselling author) to help others. Emily has managed to move forward with her life and achieve huge things, despite living with the trauma she has faced and she has amazing friends and family too, who are there to support her.

I loved this book and read it in 2 days. Girl Unmasked is not an easy read – it is a meaningful, powerful real story of someone’s life. Please do read with care as it discusses mental health themes alongside autism. On the front of Emily’s book is a rainbow and to me that symbolises the hope with which she lives her life and is now bringing to others.

Girl Unmasked: How Uncovering My Autism Saved My Life is out now, published with Monoray.

Emily Katy, 21, lived as an undiagnosed autistic girl for nearly seventeen years. After completing her degree in 2022, she qualified as a mental health nurse. She has a large, highly engaged following on social media: @ItsEmilyKaty X (formerly Twitter) 68.4k followers, 21k Instagram followers and a blog www.authenticallyemily.uk, where she talks about autism and mental health. Emily is a Trustee of the charity ‘The Autistic Girls Network’